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Catholic Weddings: Another Option

Contemporary Catholics are often searching for a non-judgmental, sacramental experience different from that offered by the institutional church. You may want to have a Catholic wedding but may not be permitted, for various reasons, by the institutional church. We at St Francis offer you an alternative.

Those entering into second marriages, those experiencing religious differences with the church and others will find openness and acceptance here. We provide marriage services in a compassionate manner. Perhaps you have concerns about perceived barriers? We treat you with the same care Christ gave to all who came to him.

If you are not a member of our parish, we ask that you attend worship prior to pre-marital conversations and that you help the parish to continue to be able to provide the facility and services through financial support.

Outdoor Weddings and Other Sites

The choice of location for your wedding is yours. Depending on weather and other factors ceremonies may be held out-of-doors. You may hold your wedding at our chapel, or arrange to use another interdenominational church or chapel. Hotels, banquet halls, private homes, museums and other locales are other options. A wedding consultant or the yellow pages can yield additional suggestions.

Personalization of Wedding Ceremonies

We will be pleased to assist you in personalizing your wedding ceremony. There are many ways in which this can be accomplished. Options for readings, both from the scriptures and other sources, which speak to marriage are available. Vows can be written by you or chosen from more traditional options. Ceremonies which speak to various ethnic groups such as the coin, rope and veil, hand fasting or jumping-the-broom ceremonies can also be accommodated. Unity candles, roses to parents and other more traditional activities can be easily included. Discussing your wishes with your priest is the best way to assure that your day is special.

Nuptial Mass and Wedding Ceremonies

Your wedding ceremony will be very similar to that celebrated in the Roman jurisdiction since we share the same liturgical forms. The Nuptial Mass is the preferred way of celebrating the sacrament. All people participating in the ceremony are invited to the altar for communion, regardless of religious affiliation. On a practical side, it only adds a minimal amount of time to the length of the ceremony. Wedding ceremonies can also be celebrated outside of the Mass.

Previous Marriages

As Catholics, we believe in the sanctity of marriage; we also realize that we are only too human. When a marriage ends through divorce, it is often prima facie evidence that the essential element of marriage did not exist to maintain the bond. While we do not have an annulment or dispensation process, remarriage is allowed in order to avoid further human tragedy. From this perspective we solemnize remarriages with the joy and the peace of Christ.

Religious Differences

St. Francis of Assisi American National Catholic Parish is all-inclusive. We encourage you to consider how religious differences might impact your relationship. It is not one of those easily overlooked issues. We only ask that you raise any children in a loving household and teach them to love God and one another as He loves us, wholly and completely.

Marriage Preparation Classes

Your marriage represents a change in how you see yourself and your relationship with others. It is both exciting and frightening. You can control only part of what happens to you. Your family and friends are here to support you and so is the community as a whole. Marriage (Pre-Cana) preparation courses and individual counseling can help. We encourage you to take time to prepare yourselves and will assist you as time and distance allow. Your marriage will work only if both of you are committed to making it work. Ideally, the priest would like to meet with you at least once before the ceremony.

Legal Issues

To be legally married, you will need to have a license from the county clerk or the state department of registration for the place in which the ceremony will occur. Often, there is a short waiting period, a definite expiration date and sometimes other requirements. After the ceremony, the priest will make sure that your license is signed and sent to the appropriate agency. He will also provide a marriage certificate for your more immediate use. You will need to have this or a document issued by the county clerk to change driver’s licenses, bank accounts, insurance plans and other legal documents after the wedding.

Recognition by the Roman Catholic Church

Each jurisdiction has its own criteria for recognition of sacraments. St. Francis American National Catholic Parish is not affiliated with the Roman Catholic church. Through apostolic succession in the Old (Dutch) Catholic tradition, we celebrate the same sacraments as those in the Roman and Orthodox communities. Your marriage will be legal with the state and a sacrament in the eyes of God.

Fees for Wedding Services

There is no per-se charge for our wedding services. A financial donation of $650 is suggested, not mandatory. Currently St. Francis of Assisi parish has a limited number of clergy; a priest may be required to travel great distances to celebrate the sacrament with you. If the couple is getting married on Long Beach Island (LBI), the suggested donation is $900. This donation will help cover the cost of travel for our clergy. A donation check made payable to the Rev. George R Lucey may be considered tax deductible as the we are a New Jersey not for profit organization and the IRS recognizes the American National Catholic Church as a publicly supported (religious) organization. Please check with your priest regarding this matter as we do not deny the sacraments to anyone in financial distress.

What must I do to have a priest officiate at our wedding?

Please send an email to will allow us to begin a dialogue with you on your wedding. Ideally, we would like to personally meet at least once with a couple. When this is not practical email and telephone conversations may substitute. Your priest will work with you to discuss marriage and help you plan your wedding.

If you are not a member of our parish, we ask that you attend worship prior to pre-marital conversations and that you help the parish to continue to be able to provide the facility and services through financial support.


Sample Marriage Ceremonies, and Ceremony Outlines

Outline of Catholic Marriage Ceremony Outside of Mass

Sample Catholic Marriage Ceremony Outside of Mass

Sample Catholic Marriage Ceremony Inside of Mass

Outline of Catholic Marriage Ceremony Inside of Mass

Sample Catholic Marriage Ceremony Inside of Mass (Spanish/English)

Sample Catholic/Orthodox Marriage Ceremony Outside of Mass

Wedding Instruction Form

Please download and complete the form by clicking here. Attach the completed form in an email and send it to

Marriage Preparation Class

If you would like to register for our marriage preparation class for 2017, please click here.
Below are the dates for our classes for 2017:
  • February 11, 2017
  • April 8, 2017
  • September 9, 2017

Wedding Organist / Pianist / Violinist

If you are looking for someone to play the church organ, piano or violin at your wedding, we recommend our very own Anthony Bevilacqua. You can visit his website at

Wedding Photographers

If you are looking for someone to capture one of your life's important moments, we recommend the following photographers.

Oscar Antonio
Phone: (917) 842-7840

Amelia Panico
Phone: (212) 879-2947 or (917) 863-5810